Is THIS How Birthdays Work?

vintage seventies photos

Today is my birthday – I can’t say how old…that wouldn’t be a fair way to play the game.  But I will share what I have learned and I have been on quite a journey.

This year, I started with three New Years resolutions. All the resolutions were rooted in being honest, a topic that Pop, Mom, and I have spent thousands of mobile-to-mobile minutes on during the last year.

I encourage you to really think about these and maybe adopting them as your own.

The first resolution, I told you about here – Stop Judging.

I followed not judging with two resolutions that we haven’t yet talked about.  As a trifecta, my resolutions have been serious life game-changers for me…and I hope for you, too!  Here are the other two:

I really don’t care what you think.  Now, at first glance this seems a little harsh.  It’s not that I don’t care what you think.  It is that I really don’t care for you to judge what works for me and my third resolution.

I am putting myself first.  Fine. I will say it.  I am a middle child.  No matter what anyone says, my role has been to not cause problems and to please people at all costs – keep the lid on the drama and avoid the drama if it started happening.  This year, as I learned to be honest with myself and put the things that are important to me first (every single, exhausting time), I was able to create a direction for my life that makes me really happy.  And makes me more useful to the people who actually need my help – which I love to give.

With these three resolutions, I have learned to embrace everyday, every moment.  I am blessed to wake up every day.  I am centered on the things that matter the most to me and my family and I don’t really care what you do – as long as you don’t mess with my path, I am all good with whatever your life choices are.

I can honestly say that I am the happiest I have ever been – except for maybe when my Pop captured the picture above of me at the park.  This was the girl I was meant to be – optimistic, determined, fun and happy.  It only took me 30+ years to get back to her.  But maybe that is just the way the world works.  Or maybe not.  If you learn my lessons earlier, you may be able to get there faster – and, as a middle child, I will be happy if my lessons serve you sooner rather than later.

Happy Birthday to me!  A huge thank you to my best friends, grandparents, parents, and siblings who have always loved me unconditionally.  And without a doubt, I would not be the girl I am today without the support, vision, and encouragement of the Husband. He has always seen the best in me – especially on days I couldn’t see it in myself.